What are the things that keep you moving? What are the things that keep you motivated? What are the decisions you thought were best?
Whenever you've made any meaningful change in your life, there is one common thread.
You had a sense of urgency.
Maybe you were fed up with your current situation -- clothes not fitting, energy non-existent, body you don't recognize when you look in the mirror.
Maybe (though, hopefully not) you had a recent doctor visit and received an ultimatum: Start exercising and change your diet, or you'll experience some health consequences. Maybe you had a deadline … an upcoming wedding, Bar or Bat Mitzvah, or graduation ceremony. Whatever it was for you, the sense of urgency was the one common thread.
Change is unlikely to happen if we're comfortable with where we are.When we leave our comfort zone -- sometimes by choice, but often because we're forced to -- is where real change happens.
If you've ever been resistant to change -- or, if you're resistant to it right now -- that just means you're human. We're all reluctant to change in some form or another. To break that pattern, it's important to understand the source of your resistance.
You're either in a state of:
Denial:
You can see the facts but ignore them because that's easier than making changes. Most of us hate exercising because it makes us sweaty and gives us body aches (for first-timers), but in reality, we know that our our body needs it.
We always chose the easier path not realizing that, in the end, it will be the cause of our heartaches, burdens, and problems.
Rebellion:
Most of us don't like being told what to do. We like to follow our own ways because of pride. We do not listen to others, thinking that we know what is best. However, most of the time those words of advice are what we needed most.
We are blinded by being self-righteous without realizing the consequences of our actions.
Resignation:
You've convinced yourself that you "can't teach an old dog new tricks" and would rather accept the consequences of inaction than the consequences of taking action and "failing." It is like a virus killing your willingness to learn and make a change.
If you are feeling this way, try to look for a new motivation that will drive you to be alive again and revive your grit to accept new challenges that will help you grow and improve.
If you know deep down that you've got to make some changes, but are finding reasons not to make them, take a look at the three states of resistance above. Does one of them fit you to a tee?
If so, you should start making the change to your mindset now!
It is never too late to start. As the famous quotation says, IT IS BETTER TO TRY AND FAIL THAN NEVER TO TRY AT ALL"
I bet ten years from now; you will regret seeing yourself in a state that is not healthy and think of the past opportunities and chances that you could have exercised and gotten fit.
Life is a world of unexpected turns, and we are offered limited choices every day. I hope we choose the right option that will benefit our future selves.